Fly True Temperament Parenting
“Train up a child in the way he should go (and in keeping with his individual gift or bent), and when he is old he will not depart from it.” – Prov. 22: 6 (Amp)
“Fathers, do not irritate and provoke your children to anger (do not exasperate them to resentment), but rear them (tenderly) in the training and disciplining and the counsel and admonition of the Lord.” – Eph. :4
“And how from your childhood you have had a knowledge of and been acquainted with the sacred Writings, which are able to instruct you and give you the understanding for salvation which comes through faith in Christ Jesus (through the leaning of the entire human personality on God in Christ Jesus in absolute trust and confidence in His power, wisdom and goodness.)” – 2 Tim. 3:15
It is comforting to know that God has created your child with his or her specific temperament, uniquely woven in the mother’s womb, equipped with everything your child will need to fulfill his or her purpose and destiny in life.
Every temperament has a unique set of strengths, gifting, aptitudes, abilities and even spiritual gifts. Learn to delight in your child’s strengths, and help them to overcome their weaknesses and to develop in the areas that they are not naturally gifted or strong, growing your child’s coping skills and personality.
Above all, build your child’s character, help your child to see who they are in Christ.
Train up your child, in the way he should go and in keeping with his individual gift or bent, and when he is old he will not depart from it.
♡Child Temperament Assessment: Teenager: Ages 12-18
♡Winged Heart: The Highly Sensitive Child
♡Memletics Learning Styles Assessment
♡Temperament Parenting Skills
♡Career Interest Assessment (ages 12-18)
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What is my child’s Learning Style or Intelligence Style?
What is my child’s Temperament Style?
A Quick Overview of Fly True Childhood Temperaments (Early Childhood: ages 4-8)
– a TIME and a SEASON for every PURPOSE under heaven –
Happy and flexible children are calm, happy, adaptable, regular in sleeping and eating habits, positive in mood and interested in new experiences. Fun loving and playful, they love to be the center of attention. They respond to new people, even strangers and enjoy sensory input and interacting with people and their environment. Because of their easy style, parents need to set aside special times to talk about the child’s frustrations and hurts because he or she won’t demand or ask for it. This intentional communication will be necessary to strengthen your relationship and find out what your child is thinking and feeling.
Very intense and sensitive children are often fussy, irregular in feeding and sleeping habits, low in adaptability, fearful of new people and situations, easily upset with noise and commotion, high strung, and intense in their reactions. They tend to be shy and do not respond well to strangers interacting with them. They are usually sensory sensitive, especially as a baby and they are happiest when in a calm, relaxed state and become difficult when over stimulated.
Slow to warm up and adapt children are relatively inactive, reflective, tend to withdraw or to react negatively to novelty and new situations. But their reactions gradually become more positive with experience and continuous exposure. Sticking to a routine and your word, along with allowing ample time to establish relationships in new situations, are necessary to allow independence to unfold.
Difficult, active/feisty and bossy children are often fussy, irregular in feeding and sleeping habits. Usually very active and fearless and tend to hurt themselves and other children in their enthusiasm, they love to master new skills and to win. Parents need to address any bullying behavior from a very young age. They push boundaries and challenge their parents for control. Providing areas for vigorous play to work off stored up energy and frustrations with some freedom of choice allow these children to be successful. Preparing these children for activity changes and using redirection will help these children transition (move or change) from one place to another.
Is my child Highly Sensitive?
Winged Heart: The Highly Sensitive Child
A highly sensitive person (HSP) is a person having the innate trait of high sensory processing sensitivity (or innate sensitiveness as Carl Jung originally coined it). According to Elaine N. Aron and colleagues as well as other researchers, highly sensitive people, who comprise about a fifth of the population (equal numbers in men and women), may process sensory data much more deeply and thoroughly due to a biological difference in their nervous systems. This is a specific trait, with key consequences for how we view people, that in the past has often been confused with innate shyness, social anxiety problems, inhibitedness, social phobia and innate fearfulness, and introversion (30% of those with the trait are extroverts). The trait is measured using the HSP Scale, which has been demonstrated to have both internal and external validity. Although the term is primarily used to describe humans, something similar to the trait is present in over 100 other species.
The attributes of HSPs can be remembered as DOES:
-Depth of processing.
-Over aroused (easily compared to others).
-Emotional reactivity and high empathy.
-Sensitivity to subtle stimuli.
HIGHLY SENSITIVE CHILDREN…
· Become easily overwhelmed.
· Are cautious in new situations.
· Notice more (changes, subtleties, relationships, other’s people’s moods & expressions, etc.).
· Think more about what they have noticed.
· Have rich inner lives.
· Feel things intensely.
· Are unusually empathic.
· Are highly intuitive.
· Are conscientious.
· Are exceptionally creative.
· Are exceptionally cooperative and kind—except when overwhelmed.
· Are more likely to become fearful, shy, worried, or sad.
· May stand out as “different”.
Contact us for an Assessment to find out more about this Temperament Trait and how to help your child thrive in a world that seems to overwhelm them, at times.
What is my Parenting Style? Is it a good fit for my child’s temperament?
Your Parenting Style and your child’s temperament
The match or mismatch between a child and a parent determines the harmony between them. Temperament, however, is not set in stone. Although temperament has been shown to be consistent over time, family environment and life experiences can make a difference.
Parents who are sensitive to their child’s temperamental style and can recognize the child’s unique strengths will make family life smoother.
For example, when faced with a new situation, a parent of a slow to warm up child may need to be patient and allow him more time to assess a situation. A difficult child may need advance rehearsal of the expected behavior to help her deal with the new situation. Obviously, all parents and children are unique and not easily categorized. Most will show characteristics of several styles, but over time, one style generally prevails.
Contact us for an Assessment of your Parenting Style and to see if it is a good fit for your child’s Temperament.
Your children are not
They come through you
but not from you.
And though they are with you
yet they belong not to you.
You are the bows from which
your children as living arrows
are send forth.
The Archer sees
the Mark upon the path
of the infinite,
and He bends you with
His might that His arrows
may go swift and far.